Abuse, violence, and uncontrolled rage are not limited to any one segment of our society. The rich, poor, middle class, educated, uneducated, employed, unemployed and the list is endless when tracking the areas where violence and abuse occur. Spouse abuse and violence all too often makes the news when people of notoriety, means or wealth demonstrate the abusive behavior.
There seems to be an escalation of rage in the last month of the year. It could be that during this time of year there are more stressful family times bringing out the worst in behavior or it could be the rage has built up for many months to only be displayed in December. Whatever the reason might be, there seems to be more reports of abuse and violent behavior during the times of the year when families will be together for holiday gatherings.
For many years behaviorists have sought answers as to why a person will break into rage and uncontrolled violence. While we know much about the behavior of people acting out in that way, too often we discover the causes too late. When illegal drugs or other stimulants are ingested into a person’s body there can always be the unknown type of behavior that will follow.
All too often there are people who want to blame the weapon used in the abuse or violence as if it suddenly jumped into the hand of the person doing the abusing. Just as in the case of every crime, the tool used in the abuse is not at fault but the person who is acting irresponsible at the time of the abuse. There are few of us, if any, who have not at some point lost our temper when we have felt wronged. Traffic issues can bring out rage fast when we are seeking to make our way through the rush hour and someone else cuts us off in traffic and sometimes we see the results of the uncontrolled rage that occurs as a result of traffic issues. Seldom do we hear that the vehicle is the blame for the rage because it is the person driving the vehicle who carries the responsibility for the uncontrolled action.
For a person who is in a state of uncontrolled rage, they will use whatever they can find to impose their abuse on someone else. In all too many cases with adults to minor children, it is the fist of the abuser causing the most physical harm to the child. At the very first signs of uncontrolled rage, families should seek to provide help to the person who can no longer control their emotions. There should not be a time when it is thought that once they cool off and have time to think about what they are doing that everything will be okay. From where I stand, the time to begin seeking help for that person is at the very first sign of uncontrolled rage.
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